As trans people, I think many of us go through a phase of struggling to figure out what to call certain body parts. It can feel weird, uncomfortable, and dysphoria inducing. There was a long period of time where I couldn’t even look at the word “vagina”, even if it wasn’t referring to me. Was it a symptom of misogyny? Or just my own dysphoria?

Either way, it was something that impacted me more than I realised. I didn’t exactly enjoy going through life with my skin crawling any time I heard a word pertaining to a body part.

I went through a breakup and thought, “maybe it was time for a change”. After 9 years of begrudgingly using the word “front hole” for myself, I started to experiment.

Before I get into this, please note that I am not endorsing the way I handled this - just sharing my experience.