if a marginalized man starts talking about his struggles and you make it about how much you hate men you are not a good person tbh
Disservice to keep this hidden in the comments
An example of how transmisogyny has permeated queer spaces is that I know a AMAB nonbinary person who is actively seeking to start feminizing HRT, and to adopt a more feminine general presentation, but is actively offended by the idea of being referred too as transfem in any way because they view the terms of transfemininity as synonymous with trans women and believe that there's no way that such an identity could contain the nuance of who they are, and don't like the suggestion of their proximity to it.
im sorry, what? am i misreading this? i thought its up to the people themselves to choose how they want to identify? like, two people might have similar experiences but choose to identify differently from each other. a bi person and a pan person could have the exact same experience with attraction but choose different labels for themselves. another person who has the same experience might just label themselves queer and call it a day.
isnt it up to the individual to choose how they want to label themselves? how is it transmisogynistic? /genq
Its not that they don't wish to define themselves as transfeminine that the issue. They see transfem as mutually exclusive to the nuance and interiority of being Non-binary, as well as the idea of that there would be any overlap or comparison being offensive to them.
i dont know that person so i cant speak for what they believe or dont believe. if they believe transfem is mutually exclusive to nonbinary, id say theyre wrong, but i dont think that is born from transmisogyny. i think they just dont understand how transfem and transmasc works. im saying this because i cant imagine a person having that kind of belief on transfem but not on transmasc. but feel free to correct me on that
Its not that they don't wish to define themselves as transfeminine that the issue.
in your original post, you said "...is actively offended by the idea of being referred too as transfem in any way..."
i think its okay to be offended when people refer to you by a label you dont identify with. even if its an accurate descriptor, i think its fine to be offended when they already said they dont identify with that and people still keep on insisting on that label.
if thats not the issue, maybe stop referring to them as transfem in any way?
There's a difference between someone correcting in that they don't identify as transfem and them being offended by the implication of proximity to transfemininity. They actively seek to draw a line in the sense of "I'm not like them, I would never be like them because that is lesser to what I am."
The issue is that in the current queer climate, I increasingly see people where the closer their commonality to transfems is, the more desperate they are to assure everyone else recognizes a separation so that they don't get lumped in with us. And I do mean desperate.
i dont know them and dont know how much of that is something they said out loud and how much of it is your interpretation of what they think
but regardless, a person identifying as agender might not want to be referred as nonbinary in any way cause that might imply a gender. if i keep on comparing them to nonbinaries, they can get offended at me, but that doesnt mean theyre enbyphobic. they set up boundaries on how i should refer to them and i kept on making comparisons that they dont like. it doesnt necessarily mean they think nonbinary is lesser, they just dont like being compared because it simplifies their identity to a label they dont identify with.
i think its fine if someone is desperate to assure everyone that their identity is separate from another identity that has similarities. a pan person might block anyone referring to themselves as bi cause its disrespectful especially if they already mentioned they dont like being referred as that. vice versa with a bi person. neither of those makes them biphobic or panphobic.
so whats the difference, and how is your example transmisogynistic when other examples arent problematic?
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balconekoRebloggedfolly-of-alexandriaFollowAn example of how transmisogyny has permeated queer spaces is that I know a AMAB nonbinary person who is actively seeking to start feminizing HRT, and to adopt a more feminine general presentation, but is actively offended by the idea of being referred too as transfem in any way because they view the terms of transfemininity as synonymous with trans women and believe that there's no way that such an identity could contain the nuance of who they are, and don't like the suggestion of their proximity to it.balconekoim sorry, what? am i misreading this? i thought its up to the people themselves to choose how they want to identify? like, two people might have similar experiences but choose to identify differently from each other. a bi person and a pan person could have the exact same experience with attraction but choose different labels for themselves. another person who has the same experience might just label themselves queer and call it a day. isnt it up to the individual to choose how they want to label themselves? how is it transmisogynistic? /genqfolly-of-alexandriaYou are misreading this.Its not that they don't wish to define themselves as transfeminine that the issue. They see transfem as mutually exclusive to the nuance and interiority of being Non-binary, as well as the idea of that there would be any overlap or comparison being offensive to them.balconekoi dont know that person so i cant speak for what they believe or dont believe. if they believe transfem is mutually exclusive to nonbinary, id say theyre wrong, but i dont think that is born from transmisogyny. i think they just dont understand how transfem and transmasc works. im saying this because i cant imagine a person having that kind of belief on transfem but not on transmasc. but feel free to correct me on thatIts not that they don't wish to define themselves as transfeminine that the issue.in your original post, you said "...is actively offended by the idea of being referred too as transfem in any way..." i think its okay to be offended when people refer to you by a label you dont identify with. even if its an accurate descriptor, i think its fine to be offended when they already said they dont identify with that and people still keep on insisting on that label.if thats not the issue, maybe stop referring to them as transfem in any way?#transfeminism#gender#trans people#trans community#nonbinary#non binary#transfem#transfeminine#transmisogyny#exorsexism#transmisia#transphobia#nekoreblog#nekoand2664
balconekoRebloggedfolly-of-alexandriaFollowAn example of how transmisogyny has permeated queer spaces is that I know a AMAB nonbinary person who is actively seeking to start feminizing HRT, and to adopt a more feminine general presentation, but is actively offended by the idea of being referred too as transfem in any way because they view the terms of transfemininity as synonymous with trans women and believe that there's no way that such an identity could contain the nuance of who they are, and don't like the suggestion of their proximity to it.balconekoim sorry, what? am i misreading this? i thought its up to the people themselves to choose how they want to identify? like, two people might have similar experiences but choose to identify differently from each other. a bi person and a pan person could have the exact same experience with attraction but choose different labels for themselves. another person who has the same experience might just label themselves queer and call it a day. isnt it up to the individual to choose how they want to label themselves? how is it transmisogynistic? /genq#transmisogyny#nonbinary#non binary#transfem#transfeminine#trans people#nekoreblog#nekoand#nekoquestion2664
balconekoRebloggedthisbunnyhatestransphobestransradfems going mask off with transphobia...bookyredPoint to the transphobia.
OP hates men not trans people.thisbunnyhatestransphobes saying kill all trans men is transphobia.bookyredThey said "kill all men".thisbunnyhatestransphobesThat person. wants. to kill. TransmascsbookyredSo "that person" is a woman.Stop misgendering people and then calling others transphobes.And sure, but not because they're transmascs, 'cause they exist in the social class of "man".What's not clicking?balconekoim sorry, what???your response to someone saying that a person wants to kill a marginalized group is "sure, but..."?like, its not even that she wants to kill a group of people for doing something wrong. as you mentioned, its due to them existing in the social class of "man", something that group of people have no control over. do you genuinely think thats a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people? a marginalized group no less.bookyredDo you honestly think that tumblr user yay-bunnies-zone has anything even approaching the soceital influence required to act on that? Even if every woman woke up tommorrow and began posting "kill all men, even ones who are marginalized" it wouldn't matter.Men are not marginalized you absolute fucking clown.Kill all men. Fuck male privillege.balconekoDo you honestly think that tumblr user yay-bunnies-zone has anything even approaching the soceital influence required to act on that?first of all, no i dont. second of all, whyd you bring up yay-bunnies-zone?anyway, even if i dont think tumblr users cant influence society at large, i think promoting harmful ideas is still bad. if someone says they want to kill transmascs, i think feminists should see that as a red flag. if someone believes a person deserves to die for the crime of being a man, thats gender essentialism. not to mention, not all transmascs are men, so its also transphobic and exorsexist.Even if every woman woke up tommorrow and began posting "kill all men, even ones who are marginalized" it wouldn't matter.it would matter actually. marginalized men wouldnt feel ssafe with people who would say that. a lot of marginalized men are systemically killed. if women in their safe spaces starts advocating for their deaths, they wouldnt feel safe in there. they would feel like no one would actually care when theyre killed by the state. i think thats horribleMen are not marginalized you absolute fucking clown.well marginalized men are marginalized. quelle surprise. i dont think this is hard to understand. theres a lot of marginalized social identities and classifications that could intersect with being a man. someone being a man doesnt mean theyre immune to oppression. it doesnt mean theyre immune from discrimination. it doesnt mean theyre immune to being systemically killed.anyway, please answer my question in my previous reblogdo you genuinely think thats(existing in the social class of "man") a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people?bookyredApologies, I thought this was a thread started by yay-bunnies (although considering it was started by one of the blogs that stalks her it is still related.)Not all transmascs are men, but I didn't say they were?Maybe it should be a red flag if a cis person is saying it, but transfems can be upset with people who hold privillege over us.Like sometimes trans people joke about the down-with-cis-bus or gay people sometimes say "Fuck the straights" or people of colour venting about white people might sometimes say "death to all crackers".it would matter actually. marginalized men wouldnt feel ssafe with people who would say that. a lot of marginalized men are systemically killed. if women in their safe spaces starts advocating for their deaths, they wouldnt feel safe in there. they would feel like no one would actually care when theyre killed by the state. i think thats horribleThe women in their safe spaces should be allowed to vent about the men who hold privillege over them, yes. Women of the same marginalized group getting irrritated with misogyny amongst their 'safe spaces' and venting about it it not equivilant to the government harming all members of said marginalized demographic.well marginalized men are marginalized. quelle surprise.True, poor wording on my part (although I have a feeling you know what I meant.)Let me rephrase: Men are not marginalized for being men.anyway, please answer my question in my previous reblogdo you genuinely think thats(existing in the social class of "man") a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people?I assumed my response spoke for itself, but:Most of the time people who say "kill all men" do not actually want to.But yes. I do think that is okay.When we (finally) live in a world where men were oppressed by women you can get back to me.balconekoNot all transmascs are men, but I didn't say they were?not really. but it wasnt really about you when i mentioned it, no? i was talking about bunsnuffcat being a gender essentialist, transphobic, and being exorsexistbut looking back at it, you did say thisMaybe it should be a red flag if a cis person is saying it, but transfems can be upset with people who hold privillege over us.i personally dont think anyone regardless of identity should be saying "kill <group of people>" casually in public, but i know not everyone agrees with me on that. but even without that, it still sounds bad to me. i dont think lesbians should be saying "kill gay men". i dont think bi women should be saying "kill bi men". i dont think black women should be saying "kill black men". i dont think disabled women should be saying "kill disabled men". so i dont understand how its somehow fine when it comes to transfems saying "kill transmascs"Like sometimes trans people joke about the down-with-cis-bus or gay people sometimes say "Fuck the straights" or people of colour venting about white people might sometimes say "death to all crackers".yeah. but you dont hear black queer people saying "fuck the black straights", you dont hear disabled people of color saying "death to all disabled crackers". so why is it acceptable to say it when its trans men or transmascs?Women of the same marginalized group getting irrritated with misogyny amongst their 'safe spaces' and venting about it it not equivilant to the government harming all members of said marginalized demographic.that is true. women of a marginalized group venting about the men in the same marginalized group would be very different from the government harming all of that demographic. but imagine if during the palestinian genocide, a palestinian queer person says "death to cishet palestinians", i would be concerned with that because palestines are being systematically killed. obviously, this is an exaggerated example, but i hope you get what im saying hereLet me rephrase: Men are not marginalized for being men.men could be marginalized for being men. during the aids crisis, there was a time when gay men were being marginalized in a different kind of way that gay women were being marginalized. they experienced gay men specific discrimination. obviously thats not happening now, but im saying that it does happen. asian men being emasculated and black men being treated as violent rapists are situations where theyre being marginalized for being men. the women of those races can also be affected, but the men were the primary targets of that kind of oppressionMost of the time people who say "kill all men" do not actually want to.But yes. I do think that is okay.okay, but what if someone actually wants to? one of the reasons i dont like it when people say "kill ____" or "kill all ____" is it dehumanizes that section of the population. when people dehumanize a group of people, it becomes easier to not care when theyre being hurt. and if you fall further into the pipeline, it becomes easier to accept certain fascist beliefs. even worse when its a marginalized group. the existence of the phrase "kill all men" made it easy for people to say "kill all transmascs" and "kill all trans men". and i already explained in my previous paragraphs why i think thats harmful. saying "kill all men" makes it easier for someone to believe its okay for men to die. saying "kill all men" makes it easier for someone to believe its good for men to die. just as someone saying "i wanna kill myself" makes it easier for someone to kill themselves, saying "kill all men" makes it easier for someone to actually believe men deserve to dieso, do you think even if someone genuinely believes it, someone being a man is a good enough justification for them to want to kill a group of people?#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#transfeminism#transphobia#transmisia#andromisia#intersectional feminism#intersectionality#race#gender#orientation#identity#nuance#discourse#nekoreblog#nekoand… See all72835
balconekothis is what happens when people keep dehumanizing transmascs. youd get to the point where youd genuinely believe every transmasc is inherently malicious. youd believe anyone trying to stop infighting is secretly planning to make transfems suffer. i understand that a lot of people are traumatized by men or maybe transmascs and trans men specifically. but its not something you should project to every person in that demographic. this is gender essentialist.and once you start believing this other group is inherently bad, you can justify anything bad happening to them. this is how people fall down the fascist pipeline. they start by dehumanizing the outside group. this is how cult members get trapped. they stop trusting anyone outside the ingroup. this is creating an echochamber that prevents you from hearing the other sidetransfems and transmascs, neithers and others, remember that no one is inherently evil or beyond redemption. no social class is a monolith, no demographic deserves death. remember that youre not immune to propaganda. take care of yourselvesand of course, dont harass anyone#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#transfeminism#gender essentialism#echo chamber#dehumanization#yay bunnies#yay-bunnies#segregation#nekoand10531
balconekoRebloggedthisbunnyhatestransphobestransradfems going mask off with transphobia...bookyredPoint to the transphobia.
OP hates men not trans people.thisbunnyhatestransphobes saying kill all trans men is transphobia.bookyredThey said "kill all men".thisbunnyhatestransphobesThat person. wants. to kill. TransmascsbookyredSo "that person" is a woman.Stop misgendering people and then calling others transphobes.And sure, but not because they're transmascs, 'cause they exist in the social class of "man".What's not clicking?balconekoim sorry, what???your response to someone saying that a person wants to kill a marginalized group is "sure, but..."?like, its not even that she wants to kill a group of people for doing something wrong. as you mentioned, its due to them existing in the social class of "man", something that group of people have no control over. do you genuinely think thats a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people? a marginalized group no less.bookyredDo you honestly think that tumblr user yay-bunnies-zone has anything even approaching the soceital influence required to act on that? Even if every woman woke up tommorrow and began posting "kill all men, even ones who are marginalized" it wouldn't matter.Men are not marginalized you absolute fucking clown.Kill all men. Fuck male privillege.balconekoDo you honestly think that tumblr user yay-bunnies-zone has anything even approaching the soceital influence required to act on that?first of all, no i dont. second of all, whyd you bring up yay-bunnies-zone?anyway, even if i dont think tumblr users cant influence society at large, i think promoting harmful ideas is still bad. if someone says they want to kill transmascs, i think feminists should see that as a red flag. if someone believes a person deserves to die for the crime of being a man, thats gender essentialism. not to mention, not all transmascs are men, so its also transphobic and exorsexist.Even if every woman woke up tommorrow and began posting "kill all men, even ones who are marginalized" it wouldn't matter.it would matter actually. marginalized men wouldnt feel ssafe with people who would say that. a lot of marginalized men are systemically killed. if women in their safe spaces starts advocating for their deaths, they wouldnt feel safe in there. they would feel like no one would actually care when theyre killed by the state. i think thats horribleMen are not marginalized you absolute fucking clown.well marginalized men are marginalized. quelle surprise. i dont think this is hard to understand. theres a lot of marginalized social identities and classifications that could intersect with being a man. someone being a man doesnt mean theyre immune to oppression. it doesnt mean theyre immune from discrimination. it doesnt mean theyre immune to being systemically killed.anyway, please answer my question in my previous reblogdo you genuinely think thats(existing in the social class of "man") a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people?#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans issues#trans people#transfeminism#feminism#transphobia#transmisia#andromisia#yay-bunnies#yay bunnies#<- (brief mention)#nekoreblog#nekoand… See all72835
balconekoRebloggedcock-hollidayFollowSo much of cis and trans radfeminist discourse is like throwing a grenade into every room you think has a man in it, then when 99% of the people killed by the grenade are women you go “well, you shouldn’t have been in the room where a man might have been” and somehow it’s feminist praxisPenis makes you evil? Trans women get hit. Trans men get hit. People who fuck with a strap get hit. Being a top gets you hit. Got penis envy? Must be evil. Can accuse you of penis envy? Evil.Testosterone makes you evil? Trans women get hit. Trans men get hit. Intersex people get hit. Masc women get hit. Women of color get hit. Anyone you can force a masculine label on or deny of a feminine label gets hit.Male privilege is a moral failing you both somehow choose but also cannot opt out of rather than a set of conditional circumstances society imposes on you that may temporarily benefit you? Trans women get hit. Trans men get hit. Anyone you can accuse of being too close to maleness gets hit.Masculinity makes you evil? Trans men get hit. Trans women who are masc get hit. Trans women who you can accuse of being masc get hit. Masc women get hit. Anyone you can accuse of being masc get hit (woc, intersex people, ethnic minorities with features assumed ‘masculine’, anyone who rejects aspects of femininity or doesn’t perform femininity in a way you think they ‘should’)Proximity to men makes you evil? Anyone who dates men is hit. Anyone who likes men is hit. Anyone who is friends with men gets hit. Ultimately people assaulted by men suddenly “had it coming” because they dared stand next to a man, and you call yourself a feminist spouting the biggest rape apologist catchphrase???You wanna “kill all men” for what theyve done to you, but you’re not doing anything to hurt OR change cis men or society but you are wracking up a body count of women just as hurt as you. “Feminist” when you’ve pushed more women towards suicide than an incel has? Gimme a break. “Misandrist” you wouldn’t dare say that shit to a cis man, but you sure have a lot of gas in the tank for the woman standing near him or the trans man who *just* started using he/him after 20+ years of the type of misogyny you are going to gleefully throw back in his face #transfeminism#transmisia#transphobia#transandromisia#transandrophobia#androphobia#andromisia#nekoreblog541880
balconekoRebloggedvelvetvexationsFollowI genuinely don’t understand why it’s so hard to accept that trans men are men who do not have the societal protection cis men do.“Kill all men doesn’t hurt men because men aren’t systemically killed”Trans men are! Trans men are being killed! “Kill all men” is a sentiment trans men have to deal with while being killed for making the choice to transition into men! Why do they have to deal with constant vilification for trying to be who they even in communities that are supposed to be safe for them? Why does saying "kill all men" matter more than that?bugyearningBlack men are systematically killed. Indigenous men, Latine men, Palestinian, Iranian and trans men. And these identities can and do overlap and compound each other. It’s the whole damn reason intersectionality was coined. It really isn’t that radical to go around saying “kill all men” when “eat the rich” and “fuck the patriarchy” are right there. #transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#nekoreblog887672,327
balconekoRebloggedangrychicagoan24Followi’m gonna say something that will probably piss some people offi do not think “kill all men” is a good or productive thing to say in any situation angrychicagoan24one of the most important arguments made on my postbalconekohit the nail in the head. some people have genuinely just accepted that "kill all transmen" with a "/srs" is feminist thing to say#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#transfeminism#feminism#yay bunnies#yay-bunnies#nekoreblog#nekoand3774,5529,233
balconekoRebloggedthisbunnyhatestransphobestransradfems going mask off with transphobia...bookyredPoint to the transphobia.
OP hates men not trans people.thisbunnyhatestransphobes saying kill all trans men is transphobia.bookyredThey said "kill all men".thisbunnyhatestransphobesThat person. wants. to kill. TransmascsbookyredSo "that person" is a woman.Stop misgendering people and then calling others transphobes.And sure, but not because they're transmascs, 'cause they exist in the social class of "man".What's not clicking?balconekoim sorry, what???your response to someone saying that a person wants to kill a marginalized group is "sure, but..."?like, its not even that she wants to kill a group of people for doing something wrong. as you mentioned, its due to them existing in the social class of "man", something that group of people have no control over. do you genuinely think thats a good justification for someone to want to kill a group of people? a marginalized group no less.#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#nekoreblog#nekoand#nekoquestion72835
balconekoRebloggedthis-is-transandrophobiaFollowadulthumanproblem-deactivated20 asked:Another one for the blocklist. Heavily implying that trans men are sexual predators that prey on poor innocent lesbians (now where have I heard that rhetoric before (it's terfs. They all sound like terfs))this-is-transandrophobia answered:This is transandrophobia balconekothis also confuses me. like, lesbians dont have to date lesbians exclusively. bi and pan people exist, some lesbians date those. a trans man identifying as a lesbian isnt signaling that lesbians should date him, its just signaling his sexuality. a trans man identifying as a lesbian doesnt affect anyone, people identifying ass anything doesnt affect anyone. i dont understand what they dont get about that#transandrophobia#transandromisia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#transmasc lesbian#trans man lesbian#mspec lesbian#lesbian#nekoreblog#nekoand632169
balconekonoticed people mention "androbro" quite a bit recently. genuine question, how do people define "androbro", who are people pertaining to when they say that?#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisogyny#transfeminism#<- using these tags since this is where i hear the terms being used#androbro#androphobia46
balconekoRebloggedyay-bunnies-zoneFollowAnonymous asked:Maybe tag the 'kill all transmen' stuff with /s or something? Like they're going to hate on you whether or not you do that, but I hold out hope that some of them will realise that they're going full terf on a black trans woman for being hyperbolic on the hyperbole website yay-bunnies-zone answered:honey that was all /srs i hate men thisbunnyhatestransphobesdirectly from the bunnies mouth...balconekoreminder to everyone that yay-bunnies is serious when fae uses "transmen" instead of "trans men" and also advocates for their deathalso reminder to everyone that trans people are capable of being transphobic. it is okay to call out transphobia even if its coming from trans people or other marginalized groupand just in case, reminder that calling out a transfem for being transphobic doesnt mean i hate all transfems. it just means i hate transphobic people and one of them just happened to be transfemadditional reminder that harassing people is bad and is not productive. do not harass anyone. do not send threats, hatemail, or whatever. criticism is fine, but harassing them in their asks or dms isnt going to be productive, its just gonna be annoying#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#transmisia#transphobia#trans people#yay bunnies#yay-bunnies#<- tagging so you can block the tag if you dont want to see it#nekoreblog#nekoand… See all967158
balconekoRebloggedaradiabot612Followtransandrophobia believers who believe that trans men cannot have male privilege because they might get clocked / don't always pass, do you think a trans woman Gains male privilege by being clocked? do you think that trans women gain male privilege when they don't pass?balconekotransandrophobia believer here ✋i do think there is merit in discussing this, but i think some clarification would be helpful. what are we talking about in terms of male privilege?i know wikipedia isnt exactly the most reliable of sources, but i assume it uses the universally used definition of words so im gonna assume youre using the same definition. if it means something different, feel free to correct methe way wikipedia defines it, not every man has access to the same kind of male privilege. different forms of social classification affects how much and what kinds of male privilege a guy has access to, also how well they match the ideal masculine norm. that definition being used, being trans and passing as a guy both affects how you can access male privilege. trans men could have access to different kinds of privileges, but due to how society sees trans people, saying "trans men have access to male privilege" can be misleading without the nuance of iti cant really list every single instance of male privilege so im just going to look at workforce inequality since that seems to be the thing people are more focused on recentlythat being said, time to address the elephant in the room.ive seen this article about the wage gap among lgbtq wokers going around this site. its mostly to point out how trans men have this privilege when it comes to how much they earn. id argue its a thought terminating cliche since its just used to point out a wage gap and conclude that its male privilege without any nuance. however, id like to zoom out a bit morenow when they say "men in the lgbtq+ community" and "women in the lgbtq+ community", im not sure if theyre including trans people in that group. but regardless, we can see that the average queer woman earn 17 cents more than the highest average within the trans people group. queer women earn 17 cents more than trans men. yes, trans men still earn 10 cents more than trans women, but the kind of male privilege theyre experiencing here is minimal when nontrans people still earn more than they do. if anything, this highlight cis privilege more than it does male privilegei also find it kinda funny how this study is being used to point out definitive male privilege but it ends up showing how different intersections of social categories influence how much of that privilege you can actually accessalso, this is just one study. lets look at another study. shoutout to @intersexcat-tboy for talking about itthe first study did indeed have 7000 lgbt respondents (6816 to be precise but that is pretty much about 7000). the study kit linked is about how the different genders and their asab (assigned sex at birth) affect their income, employment, and poverty rates. though ill focus on the income rates on this reblog because its getting way too long. you can look at the study on your own if you wantnow lets look at the differences between these two studies. the first study is about economic disparities faced by the lgbt community in general. the second study is about trans people specifically. the first study was based on a survey of 15,000+ lgbt people with the sample size restricted down into 7000 lgbt people. the second study was based on a survey of 27,715 trans people. the survey in the first study was done in may and june 2021, and the survey in the second study was done in 2015. both have their pros and cons. one is more focused on trans people but is older, and one is more focused on lgbt people in general but is more recentanyway, about the second studyACS = american community survey
GQNB = genderqueer nonbinary
the numbers on the x axis have decimal points on their left, its just hard to see since its tinyas you can see here, the study shows a different kind of income gap. trans women earn more than trans men. amab nonbinaries earn more than afab nonbinaries. though i personally dont think its a significant difference, its decimals of a percentage. but it shows how the numbers show a different story when we use a different sample sizeof course, its also possible the income gap just changed to favor trans men within 6 years. but it doesnt change the fact that the data doesnt really show "male privilege" within income anyway, to answer the question herei do believe trans men can have male privilege. but male privilege has some nuances. privilege doesnt work on a binary of "you either have it or you dont". certain things affect how much privilege you can access. a passing trans man and a closeted trans woman could access the same male privilege when it comes to income. but theres nuance on those situations, you cant just say trans men or trans women have access to male privilege as a blanket statement. different parts of your identity affects how much of that privilege you can access#transandromisia#transandrophobia#transmisogyny#transfeminism#transmisandry#anti transmasculinity#male privilege#patriarchy#sexism#wage gap#trans issues#cis privilege#trans men#trans women#nonbinary#gender binary#gender#genderqueer#statistics#data#nekoreblog#nekoand… See all71160
balconekoRebloggedladyasteria21FollowA letter to my fellow trans sisters – transmisogyny is certainly awful to experience and ruining society as we know it, but the solution is not to project our frustration onto trans men and non-binary folks as if they are somehow causing the problem and not the cisgender dominated patriarchy.Let's be honest with ourselves, us trans women grew up as teenage boys; not that we were boys but that society saw us as boys. Young men are bombarded with misogynistic propaganda every single day, and nobody is immune to that. If you think you're the exception, you're wrongToxic masculinity doesn't just disappear when you start taking estrogen. You have to actively, critically examine the beliefs you take for granted and unlearn the bad ideas society has taught you. But so many of you have assumed, just as TERFs do, "well, I'm a woman now, so I can't possibly be sexist," and then start talking about so-called "TMEs" the way incels talk about women (including us!)Stop making death and rape threats against trans men (especially children, the fuck is wrong with you all!?)Stop using gross, misogynistic slurs against trans men and enbies ("transandrocunt", "zipper-tits", "theyfab" etc.). Surely you can see that's no better than when we get called "shemales" and "sissies", right?Stop pretending that growing up as a girl first has zero lasting impact on a trans man's psyche, especially if the man in question grew up in the global south or underprivileged rural areasStop pretending that trans men being ignored and invisible is privilege and not erasure (we've already had this discussion years ago with bisexuals having "straight-passing privilege")Stop all of that. You're making online trans and queer spaces worse for everyone, yourself included. Transfeminism and anti-transandrophobia aren't opposites. They go hand-in-hand! In fact, they're the exact same thing. You're never going to break the gender binary down if you keep acting like being a trans woman is more valid than other gendersTrans women, stand up for your brothers and enby siblings instead of beating them down, especially in this day and age when governments around the world want to fucking murder and detransition all of us. When they speak, say it louder! If you're already doing that, I love you and you need to keep doing it until we make the world a better place for all trans folks <3United we stand, divided we fall#transandromisia#transandrophobia#transfeminism#trans community#trans positivity#trans people#nekoreblog1728211,976
balconekoRebloggedoncelerfuckerFollowI just think that telling a demographic trans people, (a broad demographic of people who are explicitly marginalized and oppressed because they transition from one assigned gender identity to another more fitting gender identity), that they aren't actually oppressed on the basis of their gender identity because they "choose" to be the Bad Oppressor gender, is like. blatantly transphobic.No matter what way you try to frame it that's what this discourse boils down to. It's an attempt to define a demographic of queer people out of the queer experience, just like every other instance of reactionary transmed and radfem infiltrated discourse targeted at a demographic of queer people on this website in the last decade and a half.trashiesttrashboyIm gonna be honest a lot of this 'you chose to transition into privilege' talk reminds me of all the 'if you're not a lesbian then you're centering men and upholding the patriarchy' bs that was being spewed a while back by radfems when of course the people saying that were not actually lesbians and instead saw being a lesbian as a political choice. If someone seriously sees transitioning as a way to move into privilege, then they probably also see transitioning as a way to move away from 'the Bad GenderTM' and they should probably reconsider whether transitioning is actually making them happy or if they just feel like it absolves them of whatever guilt they've been made to feel for how they were born.That obviously doesn't even mean that every transfem who says that stuff isn't actually trans, but it does seem like they view transfemininty as a tool to be 'better feminists' and not something that actually makes them happy. You know, like the radfems who treated being a lesbian as a political opinion instead of just a sexuality...It also definitely doesn't help that cisgender 'radfems' try to push the 'man bad woman good' narrative which is what ultimately acts as the fuel for the fire.(And yes, the vast majority of our problems stem from cisgender people and their ideologies surrounding gender, because when is that not the case?)senhor-do-escuro"Ace people are not really oppressed.""Bi people are not really oppressed.""Trans men are not really oppressed."It's the same shit discourse every single time, usually started by the same people from the previous one. The same people who hate trans men usually hate bi people and ace people.#transandromisia#transandrophobia#transmisandry#anti transmasculinity#acephobia#biphopia#transphobia#nekoreblog114205453
balconekoRebloggedsilksong-blogFollowBeing privileged does not make you a bad person. Being cis, straight, whatever will not mean you are inherently awful.Because guess what? Everyone is privileged in some way.Are you cis? Are you binary trans? Are you passing? Are you a man? Are you straight? Are you perisex? Are you white? Are you physically and/or mentally abled? Are you not in poverty? Are you of the dominant religion in your area? Are you GNC (regardless of whether you are trans)?
How many disabilities do you have? You will always be privileged over people with a more extreme form of that disability, or with a different one you don’t have.Some forms of privilege can be mutually exclusive.
Different religions are oppressed more or less depending on the situation. Different ethnicities are oppressed more or less depending on the situation (how does being interracial affect this? It can be different from person-to-person, situation-to-situation).
Are bisexual people oppressed more or less than gay people? Depends on the situation and community. I could keep going on like this forever, but if you think having privilege makes you a bad person / predisposed to be abusive, then everyone on the planet is apparently inherently awful. Because everyone on the planet theoretically has at least some form of (at the very least situational) privilege and power over someone else.balconekoanother thing people miss sometimes is being oppressed doesnt mean you dont need to be an ally.you mentioned how theres these different kinds of identities that can intersect and sometimes cant intersect and all that. so theres always a marginalized community you can be an ally for. even if youre hit with the most oppressed identity or social category, theres still groups you can support. obviously, prioritize yourself first, prioritize the issues that affect you. but dont let it stop you from caring about marginalized groups that youre not a part of.also, being part of a marginalized group doesnt stop you from being a bigot; be it to your own group or a group youre not a part of#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#transfeminism#transmisogyny#transmisogny#oppression#marginalized groups#marginalization#intersectionality#intersectional feminism#ally#privilege#identities#queer#disability#race#intersex#gender#poverty#politics#religion#nekoreblog#nekoand#i have more reblogs relating to transandrophobia since i see this issue more in here (since this is what i look at for the most part)#added the rest of the tags since its also applicable in other areas but thats not what im focused on816
balconekoRebloggedcloset-keysFollowevery day the ''nonbinary positivity'' of liberals gets more antagonistic if you have a job it's funny and relatable and cool to stay in the closet, and maybe kind of cringe to come out. don't come out at work. you don't have to medically transition and it's kind of cool and edgy and more radical anyway if you don't. don't take hormones, don't pursue surgery, don't pursue electrolysis, don't assert bodily autonomy you don't have to socially transition, you don't owe anyone a performance. don't change your behavior, don't act different, keep doing what's expected, be normal you don't have to use new pronouns or a new name or even tell anyone. if you're in the closet, stay in the closet. you are not trans. you are not trans. you are not trans. adopt-a-nuanceI feel like a lot of this could just be bad faith. And since neither you nor I can read peoples’ minds …… Like maybe we’re just not interacting with the same people, but this seems like you projecting societal transphobia onto people who are trying to normalize non-binary-ness. alone-in-a-golden-forestI think there are a lot of complicated and intersecting issues at play here. The trans community has had to fight for medicalization historically, since you can't get medical care without a diagnosis. But a lot of trans people may not fit a rigid diagnostic criteria, and enbies often fall outside of these criteria due to our not adhering to binary genders. This makes it hard for nonbinary people to access hormones and surgeries, while many of us may also not desire these things. There is, ocassionaly, a pressure to present more androgynously to be seen as truly nonbinary (as not just a woman/man using they/them pronouns). This is a bad thing, the lack of care and the pressure to seek it. Having said that, there is also pressure from society to stay in the closet and not seek transition, to pretend we are just cis people with different pronouns, to be quiet and 'normal'. I think that is what this post is picking up on, that societal pressure to not transition. But both these pressures exist concurrently, to transition into a form of androgyny to prove oneself, and to adhere to a cis standard of appearance for the comfort of non-queer individuals. I think the takes OP is talking about, the posting trends trying to validate enbies who choose not to transition, are compensating for the pressure to transition from some parts of the community. But viewing them while having the pressure of our broader society in mind does make it feel more insidious, like its coming from malicious place, trying to push us into the closet. Ultimately, the types of post mentioned are meant to compensate for a different issue than the one OP is noticing in our broader society. I do feel like those posts overcompensate (societies pressure to stay in the closet is 10x stronger than the few parts of our community which expect visible androgyny). At the end of the day, coming out of the closet is the hardest and most important thing a person can do. I came out five years ago and it sucked even though the important people in my life supported me and were open to learning. If you are thinking about coming out, transitioning, seeking hormones/therapies/surgeries, etc. do it. Just try it, check out the process, most of these things take time and happen in stages. Its fine to chose your own level of transition, but you can always pull back later if you change your mind about pronouns/names/haircuts/clothes. Again, I don't assign malice to the types of post OP is talking about. Though I do think they are over-represented and miss the point a little. You don't have to transition, but I'm sure a lot of us are sick of hearing that, whether its from well-meaning community members or the less supportive people in our lives.balconekoi like the nuance here. i personally find those statements as more supportive than antagonistic. i see them similar to the sentiment of "you dont have to date X group of people to prove that youre bi/pan". likewise, i find the statement freeing cause it removes the pressure of having to perform equal amounts of femininity and masculinity to feel valid. i do want to be androgynous, i do want to be genderneutral, but i dont have to do that to qualify as nonbinaryreally, the only uncrossed out statement in the main post that i have a problem with is the first one. the others i feel like theyre allowing more ways to be nonbinary than pressuring anyonethat being said, i do think nonbinary acceptance just has to have all different kinds of ways to be nonbinary. hypermasculine, hyperfeminine, hyperneutral, hyperandrogynous, hypermaverique, and all of the things in between. just like representation, it needs more variety #nonbinary#enby#enban#enben#non binary#androgony#maverique#gender neutral#neutrois#agender#genderqueer#nonbinary positivity#gender#nekoreblog#nekoand36,49115,354
balconekoReblogged waterlilyworldsidedereFollowI find it kinda weird that it's called "Transmisogyny/Transandrophobia discourse" because I've never seen one trans man claiming transmisogyny was not a thing#transmisogyny#transandrophobia#transandromisia#transmisandry#anti transmasculinity#nekoreblog833271,785
balconekoRebloggeddonut-despairFollowWhy is gender essentialism leaking into the queer community? Don't touch that it'll make you sound like a republican #transandromisia#transandrophobia#transphobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisogyny#nekoreblog48108
balconekoRebloggedthisbunnyhatestransphobesIf you attack anyone for their gender that is WRONG and attacking cis men Would forces all trans men to be outed Or amab trans people to be Outed in order to not Also be attackedyay-bunnies-zonei created you and you are nothing. ign1ted-ember668"trans men" "amab trans people" fuck me dead just say you don't view us as real women then jump off a bridge OPthisbunnyhatestransphobesi said that to be inclusive of non binary trans people who are amab and closeted and would be affected by this rhetoric as well as closeted trans women. its not to be transphobic . i support trans women and trans women are women.balconekotheyre really grasping at straws just to disagree with you because they cant disagree with the main points youre making. they just feel like they have to disagree with you for some reason#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#nekoreblog204390
balconekoReblogged hyaenidaefuljury-shall-decideFollowi stg some of yall 'read whipping girl!!!!' mfs highkey be giving christians who tell you something is in the bible and then don't stop to think about it any further than thatserrano literally said it has 'serious omissions' (which im sure isnt a trend in history for trans men or anything, right?) and yall still treat it like your bible. grow the fuck up and actually listen to the person who wrote the book you use to tell trans men, intersex, and nb people that their oppression isnt real because unlike yall she's actually capable of admitting when she's missing a piece of the story.#whipping girl#julia serano#transandromisia#transandrophobia#transmisia#transphobia#nekoreblog21156
balconekoRebloggedthis-is-transandrophobiaFollowAnonymous asked:the amounts of times transandrophobia is compared to zionism, esp on dni lists.hey uh, me talking about that shit i face specifically for being transmasc isn't the same as people wanting Palestinians dead and celebrating that. anyone can display who they want or not want to interact with their blog but putting ppl like me on the same level as racists, nazis, zionists, pedos, etc is very icky to say the least.this-is-transandrophobia answered:This is transandrophobia balconekofunnily enough, there are ways you can actually draw parallels to these concepts, but not in the way that trfs thinkim not transmasc or jewish, yall can correct me if i say something wrong or offensive. this is just based on observation, and the parallels arent drawn to equivocate but to show similaritiesa lot of people being an antisemite is the same as being a zionista lot of people also think being against transmascs is the same as being against misogynythey fail to realize that being against the state/government of israel doesnt mean neglecting jewish peoplelikewise, transandrophobes fail to realize being against the patriarchy doesnt mean neglecting transmascsyou can be pro palestine while also being pro jewish people. you can also be pro tranfems while also being pro transmascsbeing jewish doesnt make you a bad person, being a zionist doesbeing a man doesnt make you a bad person, being a misogynist doesi think if people can understand the nuance to one side, they could also understand the nuance to the other side#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#antizionism#antisemitism#jewish#trans people#transmasc#trans men#nekoreblog#nekoand16139
balconekoRebloggedtboy-cockFollowme: i think there needs to be a word that expands upon the term mansplaining. the phenomenom of mansplaining at its base defintion (people not part of a marginalized group condescendingly explaining the experiences of the group TO the group and effectively silencing them and treating external people/groups as the authority on that marginalized groups experience) is something that pretty much anyone can do and the term shouldnt be limited to a man doing that to a woman, or even a non misogynized person doing that to a misogynized person, because a lot of people do it. cis people do it to trans people all the time, for example. so i think we could benefit from a term akin to mansplaining but broadertrfs: erm the word youre looking for is CONDESCENSION. WOMEN cant MANSPLAIN, youre experiencing CONDESCENSION. youre MISGENDERING TRANS WOMENyall see why i said we could probably benefit from a term for people who arent men who do that now?#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#irony#mansplaining#nekoreblog1673
balconekofound this comment under a transandrophobe answering an aski went and checked the askers blog to see the "90% platforming mens misogyny". its just a blog with maybe less than 30 posts (mostly reblogs without additional content) and only 3 of those are related to trans men - one of them is a reblog of someone talking about how trans men erasure affects how little books get published about what they go through
- one of them is a reblog of someone talking about a troll who ive seen multiple times in the comments of posts about transandrophobia
- one of them is a reblog of someone who feels disheartened by the amount of transphobia that trans men and transmasc receive on this siteso yeah, its not 90%, and its not platforming misogyny. people really need to stop for a second and actually listen instead of assuming the worst out of someone just because you already feel negatively about them. talk about bad faith actors, huh?#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transmisandry#trans community#trans people#nekoand2438
balconekoRebloggedneovagina-penisis-evangelionFollowOk I've been mulling this over in my head for a while now but I kinda wanted to just air my feelings on this.I actually used to follow ISFF on an old account and early on with this one. I liked that she was so transfem positive, especially in a time where I didn't really know many other trans women in my life. I thought she was funny.One post was the scene from the PS1 FF7 where Aerith and Cloud are outside Don Corneo's mansion and Aerith tells Cloud he should dress up as a woman to sneak in and her text box was replaced with "I have a suggestion..." I thought was really funny. Cause yeah, Aerith was awful quick to jump to that suggestion. I was also going through a bit of a difficult time with some trans men in my life and her remarks on trans men and how trans women are treated as a whole felt like they were validating my feelings and frustrations. It stoked my frustrations with cis people, with being a trans person, with being a trans woman in particular.It made me more confrontational with other people, I was starting arguments, cutting people off in ways I hadn't before. Truth be told, it made me insufferable. I even had some blow-up with a coworker because she made some comment akin to "welcome to womanhood" over something I said. Which admittedly, was shitty and patronizing, but I had a more knee-jerk reaction which ended up starting a fight. Normally I'm more more sensible about picking my battles and starting a spat like this with a coworker is a dumb move because I loved my job and I gotta go to work to pay for my needs and it's not like my coworker was going away any time soon for the same reason. I just needlessly started a bitterness that didn't need to exist when I just could have vented to my friends about it and moved on.But her positions kept getting more and more extreme, being more pushy about getting men and boys on HRT, being more vitriolic towards trans men as a whole. Then she started the whole TME/TMA discussion which felt like gender essentialism with extra steps the way she talked about it. Then there was the pedophile apologia. That was the final straw. I read that post and it sent chills up my spine. It was one of the worst possible battles for a trans woman in particular to fight because it would just give terfs ammo for turning people who are neutral towards trans people against us. Yes there are, in fact, people who are neutral about trans people who just see us as regular people, I know cause I work with them every single day. I felt betrayed, heartbroken even, by someone I actually found some comfort in and as a result I distanced myself from her, her group, her behavior. And you know what?My life got better. I became more patient, less confrontational, I patched things up with the trans men in my life and they are some of my biggest supporters and best friends. They are the most ride or die people in my life these days. I have better, healthier relationships with other trans women, I'm less confrontational with cis people, and I became less obsessed with my own misery as a trans woman. I started letting go of shit easier and now, I actually have done way more to persuade cis people into being more open-minded about trans people as whole by being more easy going and not getting on my soap box to talk about my misery to anyone who looks my direction. I say this because I think a lot of other trans women support her for the same reason. She does an excellent job of making you feel validated. Making you feel seen. Acknowledging your pain and your frustrations. All of which is good in small doses but the prescribed solution led me to cut myself off from other people, to see anyone but other trans women as my enemy and to wallow in my own misery because all I could see was oppression all around me. And that’s the insidious part. It wasn't just that her takes were wrong about trans men or kids, it was that she had perfected a pipeline from 'You are hurting' to 'Burn it all down.' She gave me the language to turn my very real, very justified pain into a weapon that I was pointing at the wrong people. It was just a very loud, very angry fog. The clarity came when I stepped out of it and realized my community was a whole lot bigger, and kinder, than she wanted me to believe. Cis people still say dumb, patronizing things. Transphobia still exists. But I finally realized that ISFF wasn't teaching me how to survive it but rather she was teaching me how to drown in it.I get why people follow her. Especially if you're early in transition and you feel like you're covered in wound that nobody sees. She gives you a name for those wounds. But eventually, you realize she's the one telling you to press on them harder to make sure they never heal. I wrote this out because I think there are a lot of trans women who feel that weird, guilty knot in their stomach when they read her stuff now but are too afraid to unfollow because it feels like betraying the sisterhood.zhenya-greyi really like that you talked about all this. Back last year I saw her pop up on occasion on my feed and while I never followed her because I only follow friends, I did feel validated by a post or two. Especially back before I officially came out on here. I was scared and worried but she felt like all the other trans women I knew irl that nudged me about being a trans woman. I ended up being wrong about her so fast my head was spinning. No. She's not like the trans women I knew irl at all and it broke my heart just like you. I managed to not fall down the pipeline of hate (you'll never catch me hating people) but it's just so sad to see how it ended up. I don't know what her issue is. Like, how it all started for her. Whether she's real or not etc etc. Best we can do is try to pull fellow feminine trans people out of her grip. And . I do indeed have her to thank for the additional little nudges back when her posts were less unhinged. I will at least give her that. I'm just really bothered by what her true agenda seems to be. Also she's racist mega bad and it's making me lose my mind as a poc as well and that's why I don't think she ever really had good intentions for any of us. #nekoreblog91652
balconekoRebloggedanalogue-dragonFollowIf a group "doesn't contribute anything to history/art/science/ect." Then that is an obvious sign that they are being erased, not that they're useles. A subsect of a larger oppressed group dealing with invisibility is not a good thing. Invisibility isn't helpful, it's erasure.And his name was doctor Alan Hart.spade-of-violets-and-mintsDoctor Alan Hart was the first known trans person to graduate from the University of Oregon’s medical school. He lived publicly as a man. He married two women as a man. His family knew and accepted him. He was the victim of ruthless “transvestigations” by the press. He was a trans man, and he loved living as his true self. He deserves goddamn RESPECT from us. His name is Dr. Alan L. Hart.#transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#trans erasure#transmasc erasure#hyperinvisibility#nekoreblog241,1243,211
balconekoRebloggedhtmlhaunted-deactivated20260427Growing up being affected by misogyny is extremely traumatizing and is something that those affected will never escape.
Little girls don’t have the words for misogyny, they’re not analysing systems or unpacking theory, they’re just living it. You grow up being talked over, corrected, made smaller, and all you actually know is that you are somehow less than the boys around you. That gets built into you before you even understand what’s happening.
So no, trans men and trans mascs will never have 'male privilege' or live a life where 'misogyny no longer affects them' because they've already been brutalized, traumatized and scarred by the misogyny they faced growing up.
I can't believe this even has to be said. #transandromisia#transandrophobia#anti transmasculinity#transphobia#transmisia#misogyny#transmisogyny#nekoreblog631
balconekoReblogged hazy-daffodilitastelikesandFollowemortal-l-deactivated20250308[ID: a screenshot of a comic speech bubble. The black text in it reads "No matter how open-minded, socially conscious, anti-racist I think I am, I still have old learned hidden biases that I need to examine. It is my responsibility to check myself daily for my stereotypes, prejudices and, ultimately, discrimination." /ID end]anarchistmemedistroharpyharpyharpyOne of the worst things to happen to antiracism is the (figurative) PR campaign that convinced us (esp US Americans) that a racist is the worst thing you can possibly be--this makes contronting and unlearning your racism near impossible because we have conflated racism (a systemic, structural problem) with ontological truth (racism as some essential component of our being).#nekoreblog3828,29129,997
balconekoRebloggedhazy-daffodilFollowAs a friendly reminder, literally everyone has to unpack their misogyny. Yes, even targets of misogyny. We are shaped by the society we live in. And that society is misogynistic.#misogyny#sexism#gender essentialism#society#nekoreblog23
balconekoRebloggedhazy-daffodilFollowLiterally what is disrespectful about talking about a bodily function real people have? I was on bun's blog for less than ten seconds before seeing this btw.This reminds me a LOT of when people tell children getting their periods to "not talk about them when there's men in the house" because it's "disrespectful."(And no, that's not me calling yay-bunnies-zone a man. Don't take what I say in bad faith on purpose, dipshit.)It is not remotely disrespectful to talk to about how your uterus works to someone who does not have one. That is a patriarchal, misogynistic, bioessentialist myth made to silence people with uteruses and prevent them from getting proper medical care.This is not someone "leveraging her agab" against yay-bunnies-zone. This is bnuuwitch making a simple addition (on her OWN blog btw! Reblogs put the post on YOUR blog, not the OP's, dumbass!) about how she in particular relates to the post.This is also really fucking bioessentialist on yay-bunnies-zone's part, calling bnuuwitch a "TME" for talking about her experiences with having a uterus.1. Anatomy =/= gender identity.2. I thought "TME"s and "TMA"s were supposed to be of any sex organs? Did you forget that? This is just the wrongful co-opting of agab language all over again.Your dysphoria towards not having an ovulation cycle does not give you the right to silence those who do. I don't go around telling people who talk about cumming semen to go fuck themselves because I wish I could. It's not disrespectful to talk about how your body works to someone whose body works differently.This is just flat out misogyny. God forbid someone with different anatomy like bunnies, too.I apologize if mentioning you makes you uncomfortable, but I'd like to know your thoughts on this, @alienlike ! Absolutely no pressure to respond, though.Oh, also, to any radfems that may be reading this, go fuck yourself. Trans women are women. I do not agree with you on anything you think. I'm pointing out one bad actor.bnuuwitchTW to anyone who may be put off by this stuff, periods, vomiting, The Torture Nexus, misogyny"This reminds me a LOT of when people tell children getting their periods to "not talk about them when there's men in the house" because it's "disrespectful.""the way I have literally had to deconstruct so much harmful bullshit surrounding this specifically is absolutely insane, especially as someone with PCOS (and I'm starting to think Vaginismus if my symptoms are lining up correctly) whose periods are so hellish that I have to coordinate my showers, work, pre-make emails to professors if I can't attend class due to them etc., my period is a massive part of my life.even more so, ever since I started getting them, I've been called dramatic for talking about the pain with my family. I remember, as a 10 year old on my period, dry heaving and vomiting and shaking over a toilet and genuinely saying my prayers because I thought I was going to die.it's just so sad that a queer person, a transfem person no less, is just so misogynistic for zero reason. like holy shit I've literally been the transfem awakening for like 3 different people and have helped 2 of them thru the self-acceptance (one of em did it herself, W) and whatnot like girl I thought we were on the same team.I genuinely pity you - I'm sorry you weren't born with the body your mind and soul aligns with, and I'm sorry that my having of that body (tormentuous as it is) angers you so much.(now that i think about it that sounds so patronizing guhhhhh)anyway that was my Yap#transfeminism#misogyny#yay bunnies#nekoreblog3366262
balconekoyay-bunnies being so blatantly transphobic and misogynistic that i actually worry that a bad actor is impersonating faer to make faer look worseKeep reading#transmisogyny#transandrophobia#transandromisia#anti transmasculinity#misogyny#gender essentialism#bioessentialism#trans community#trans people#trans issues#trans#yay bunnies#yay-bunnies#nekoand40424
