Phi 💚

Being real- if you find yourself in a pattern you want to stop, talk to a therapist. It might be embarrassing but you can do telehealth if you want to keep some anonymity.

In my experience though, (even in vanilla relationships) mommy kinks are common lol. Men like women with big boobs that seem like they will take care of them. 🤷🏼‍♀️

There are a lot of people out there that are just straight up bots or looking for a quick buck- look for connected social media accounts, active posting/commenting etc. (and lurk their profiles to check the vibe out, and see if they suit you).

lurking basically, lol. A lot of dommes aren't shameless (duh) so you can probably pick up their vibe from the content they post- also have an open discussion with them before! Most dommes will let you know what to expect

If you're soft have you tried reaching out to "soft" dommes or mommy dommes? They might be more your style, unless you like it rough ;)

No but really, try it out.

It depends on the Domme from my experience, subs should definitely make sure they're talking to the right one before they tribute or commit to a domme. The disdain and harm is just sometimes part of the lifestyle or kink- there are softdommes and mommy dommes out there if that's what you'd prefer!