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Honestly probably 4-6 months or more, it’s kinda one of those things where you have to see what they choose & that normally takes a while. I told my ex I just needed time when I found out I’m August 2018 and in January 2019 I found out he was still sleeping with my ex best friend. During that whole time he kept telling me he wanted to be a family, loved me, blah blah, yet none of his actions showed that he never went out of his way to make me feel better, work on things, or stop sleeping with her. I would have probably never know had I jumped back into it right away with him. Watch what people do not what they say, words lie actions don’t & if you can control your actions remember they can too they choose not to. Hugs! I know it’s not easy. Anytime you need to talk feel free to shoot me a message 🖤
I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater because I’ve seen people change but they have to want to and be truly remorseful which if he’s a narcissist it’ll be hard to tell if he is or if he’s just saying things to get his way. The only true way is to give it time and watch his actions. If he truly wants you back he’ll try to actually fit it, he’ll not continue to see the other person, he’ll find ways to make sure you know you’re loved and cared about without you asking. I do believe some people make mistakes and don’t realize all the consequences until later but that’s not everyone who cheats. Listen to Esther Perel she has a podcast and many books, also the savage lovecast has completely changed many of my views on forgiveness & different ways of love. Unfortunately for me my ex is a narcissist who says one thing & does another, he only focuses on things that he thinks will benefit him, & he cannot for the life of him see past his own self to see the people he’s hurting in his actions ever. You know him better than any of us but my best advice would be focus on what he doesn’t not what he says & give it time!!!! People do not change overnight and you’ll never know if he means what he says if you rush back into it because you’re lonely. My ex swore left to right up and down he wanted his family back and would do anything to get it, the entire time he was still sleeping with my now ex best friend. ACTIONS! Every part of me wanted to believe his words but he to this day has yet to drop her and actually try to be any better for his family.
This same thing is talked about on savage lovecast also. I believe if I remember correctly it has to do with internalized fears becoming fantasies. It happens to a lot of people, especially like “rape” or “ravishment” fantasies are high among the fantasies that come up but also including this cuckhold/cuckqueen stuff. I would suggest listening to some savage love or trying to find the episodes with this in it because he explains it better than I ever could. Definitely not weird or out of the normal.
Unless you for some reason rely on your dad for financial stability or housing idk why you’re allowing him to basically make decisions for you or make you feel so guilty you are making decisions to please him. If you want to date someone of a different religion you’re 20, you have every right to. Clearly your dad can feel however he feels about it and that’s fine but stop letting him manipulate you! If he does have some type of power over you (housing or financial) you need to start making steps to change that. The only powder you have over your parents as you grow up is your presence in their life so my advice would be to move out, get a job, get out on your own, continue dating your boyfriend, let your dad know that’s something you plan on continuing to do, let him have his big sad and throw fit about it & use your power (presence) in his life as your leverage. 🤷🏼♀️
Question has anyone had issues getting paid on their site? I've contacted support haven't heard back yet but I don't even see an option to withdrawal on my account.
Well you can DTMFA (Dump the mother fucker already) or you can change your expectations of him. In this case I vote DTMFA because if he doesn’t care about your emotions or feeling now, chances are even if you change your expectations he’s still not gonna care about your emotions or feelings on the matter & will just push it to the next level. The real problem here is that he doesn’t respect your boundaries, & respect should be #1.
Does everyone else get a lot of people asking you to contact them off site? I always tell them the site rules don’t let us and that I can’t give our other websites I’m on or anything like that but I get so many requests. Then they always respond back with that’s not true other girls do it all the time nobody’s ever gotten into trouble. 😣 I’m just like ugh!!! Idk I don’t feel like losing the site I’m on to possibly make money. Doesn’t really seem worth it.
Dear ex best friend, Do you remember when we became friends? I’m sure I don’t remember exactly the first time we hung out but I remember the first night I knew we would be friends. We spent all night out at the bar with other friends having fun, drinking, partying & spending time together. Somehow out of everyone I felt like we had the most fun, we never stopped dancing, we loved everything about where we were, what we were doing & who we were with. We got back to where we planned on staying & you got sick. Everyone else kept partying & I held your hair until you were done. We all wanted food so I made Mac n cheese, then everyone passed out. That was the beginning of many nights to come, while others moved out & moved on with life we stayed close, you moved & I called to check on you, to make sure you weren’t alone & didn’t feel alone in a big city with no friends. We finally went on vacation together for the first time but with other friends & we always said we would eventually go on one just the two of us. You moved back eventually, we continued to grow & become closer than anyone I’ve ever been friends with. We celebrated birthdays, every New Years, anniversaries, engagements, bachelorette parties & eventually weddings together. I called you for everything & I think you did the same. We were inseparable you were like my sister but closer than any of my actual family. I never questioned that you would always be there for every big moment in my life & you always were, I never saw a future you wouldn’t be in. You were the aunt to my kids, my workout partner, my motivation, my sister, my accomplice, my reason to stay in a town I always wanted to leave because you gave me purpose, you made me laugh, you made me happy in a place I never found joy, you helped make me feel whole in a world I never felt whole in. I had finally thought my life was figured out, I was happy, I was married to someone I thought was the best person for me, & I had the best friend any girl could ask for. But slowly your energy changed & I felt the shift, I didn’t trust it but I trusted you so I ignored it, but I was right & I pushed it down to the point I couldn’t hold it down anymore. Then one day I asked you who you were texting & you lied, I knew you lied because you were never someone who was good at lying.
That was the moment my life changed & everything I thought I knew about someone I loved & who loved me was a lie. You stood right next to me while texting my husband as our daughter who called you aunt was in the stroller. I was filled with so much anger I didn’t know how to even move at that moment. I couldn’t control my tears as I walked away from you, I couldn’t focus on anything but hurt & anger. I remember calling other friends & just feeling empty, I didn’t know how to process what I just found out, I didn’t know how to stand there & be a mom when I couldn’t even stop my emotions in front of my daughter. I wanted to disappear & as I sat on the playground alone with my daughter as she handed me a flower & said “mommy I got this for you, why are you crying? Don’t cry, I got you a flower”. Looking at her made my heart break even more, how would she ever know what a family was? As the day unfolded I realized all the thing you had lied about the past few months. My brain wouldn’t stop, I couldn’t even think straight, & every time I wanted to call someone I thought about you because you were my person. How was I supposed to deal with my family ending without my person, how was the person who was supposed to be my go to the one that ruined my life? Everything I worked hard to create. You came in second to no one, if anyone had ever asked me to kick you from my life I would have kicked them first, & here I sit beside myself at the fact that when you had to choose between me or my husband you chose him. I don’t even think I can describe in words how soul crushing, earth shattering, heartbreaking that was for me. The following months after 28 years of life I learned what depression, anxiety, and panic attacks were, I didn’t know how to get out of bed, I didn’t know how to make myself not cry every single day, I didn’t know how to stop the nightmares because as soon as the dreams were over I woke up and realized my reality was a complete nightmare also. I felt like the worst mother in the world for the first time since my daughter had been born, had it not been for her I would probably cease to exist. She made me get out of bed, she held me when I cried, & she became the best friend I lost. God I felt like a piece of shit mom during that time, but she was literally the only thing that had color in a world of darkness. “Let me wipe your tears mommy & then we’ll get up okay?” I still feel guilty I wasn’t able to just be okay for her during that time. All I could see was anger, so much anger towards you for what felt like an eternity, & then one day I had a dream. When I woke up I wanted to be mad still but it was the first time I had seen your face in months. I remember crying the entire day until I got to my Counslor’s office & I cried in the waiting room until I was able to go back & talk to her. That was the day that I realized I missed you. I had spent so long being angry, mad & hurt I didn’t realize how much I missed you. Then all the sudden I did & that realization was something I wasn’t ready for. I couldn’t even stop crying to get though councling that day, I cried through the whole session & she wrote me off of work that night. Talk about feeling lower than low, who gets written off work because they can’t stop crying.... this girl. I wish I could tell you how that felt, how any of this felt & you actually understand & feel it too. I don’t think you know how much I’ve worked on myself the past two years & still don’t feel whole. I don’t think you realize all the things you took from me, or maybe you do & you just don’t care. I mean how could you? You knew everything about me, you were the closest person to me & you had no problem plucking me out of my life & taking my spot for yourself, you had your own life, you had your own husband why did you need mine too? I spent my whole life building my family, you were a part of that family, I wanted you to always be a part of my life, how was that not good enough? I stood by you when everyone walked away. I was your only true friend when nobody else saw value in you. Now I see why......... I wish I could trust people like I used to, I wish I could love people like I used to, but mostly I wish I had the friend I thought you were & not the one you turned out to be.
Gut instinct is real, if you feel like something is going on I would trust your instincts. Maybe ask her? Or ask him. I mean they’ll probably lie (who wouldn’t) but you never know. 🤷🏼♀️ Maybe you could ask to look through her phone with her permission. I mean keeping an open line of communication is necessary in every relationship and if you’re sleeping together you should be able to have a conversation about how you feel.
This 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼, the only thing I disagree with is that it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not getting something at home. Some people cheat because of their own internal turmoil, even people in happy good functioning relationships cheat. Sometimes being the “perfect” person your entire life becomes too much & you feel like you’re always being the good mom, good wife, good daughter, & you’re tired of living your life for everyone except yourself.
Another thing people don’t take into consideration is that the cheated on partner isn’t always the victim of the relationship. You don’t know what kind of mental, physical, or emotional abuse someone is or has been enduring. Just because her actions can be seen, you can point the finger and she’s now the “bad guy” doesn’t mean she doesn’t have just cause to do so or want out.
Everyone saying to tell him IMO this is none of OP’s business, you don’t know the interweaving of their relationship, how do you know there’re not in an open relationship & maybe he knows all of this already & she tries to keep it hidden from you guys & not him. He is an adult, she is an adult, & their life is nobody’s business but their own.
Only you know if you’re in love but you can definitely want people to be happy, without being in love with them. You can also love someone and not be in love love with them. I love lots of people I’m not in love with, I want them all to be happy. It really all falls down on what you interpret love to be & how you feel.
How about you actually ask the person next time instead of trying to get followers off of someone else’s face/body! I advertise for lots of girls on other platforms but they’re respectful & message first or also share my content. They don’t just jump on my most popular threads and comment their only fans account. There’s a difference between girls helping girls and girls being flat out fucking rude. It has taken a lot of time, work and effort to get the amount of followers I have on reddit so yeah it’s offensive for someone else to try and profit off of me/my content. I didn’t even post this to advertise, I did it because I enjoy this subreddit, that’s why my only fans wasn’t in the comments!
Not sensitive, I just don’t like people trying to profit off of content that’s not theirs! Maybe if you asked for me to advertise your account on my actual page or my twitter I would have reacted differently. But you didn’t! You commented your only fans under my picture hoping people would think it was me since my thread has a lot of likes to get you followers! I was gonna go post on your most popular picture but you don’t have any so guess that’s not really gonna help me any now is is? 😂
I don’t need to be in the top on only fans and I wouldn’t want to be especially by advertising on other people’s fucking photos!!!! Also it’s not stupid to show your face if you’re actually smart about your safety. But you have fun wrapping scarfs around your head so people don’t see who you are. Shit at least get a cute mask and make it look somewhat tasteful. 🤣😂🤦🏼♀️
Says the girl trying to get clout on other people’s posts 🤣😘I’m sorry where is your picture with 200+ likes? Maybe if you don’t want to show your face in your content selling it isn’t for you! 😂Also I said you don’t have BIG BOOBS! You can buy some though and then post on this subreddit if you’re desperate for likes since you’re not getting any & need to use other people’s photos to try to get followers.
If you’re gonna advertise on someone else’s post you should at least do it on posts that have a similar body type. I don’t think anyone on a sub Reddit that’s for BIG boobs wants to buy content from someone who doesn’t have any. Or better yet make your own post, get your own likes, & then advertise on it. ✌🏼👍🏼
Actually > https://onlyfans.com/toxic_slut < that’s my only fans 💁🏼♀️🙄 But good job trying to advertise for yourself on someone else’s thread. 😒
I’ve been doing it a few weeks now and I’ve left it at the starting price of the website which I believe is 2.99, my room is constantly busy, I seem to have no problem at all getting guys to go private but I am wondering if I should maybe add $1 or $2 to it or just leave it. I don’t wanna be charging crazy high prices in comparison to everyone else.
So I’ve been advertising a little on twitter & trying to grow a following there as well as other platforms. I think I maybe have 50 people following me. Today I decided to do a give away for $20 but only two people have shared it so far and it only has like 2 hours left 😂🤣😅 What is maybe a better way to get people to follow/share? Also is there a platform on reddit I don’t know about that may help?
It’s not tokens from my understanding every gold is $1, but you only get 35 cents of it. If you open a second tab and look at your earnings it will show you how much you’ve made/actually earned so far from the show. I leave the second tab open and refresh it throughout the night. I thought the amount I was being shown was only a portion of my earning but just realized it was actually my take home. 🙌🏼 I was like oh hell yeah! 😂🤣
I’ve really enjoyed working on that site so far! Like I’ve had such a good time, my room seems to always be busy, I honestly could see myself staying on it even after they lift the “stay home” order. I finally ordered a lovense toy & a few other fun things to try on camera! 💕 I kinda can’t wait for them to get here because I’ve had too much fun entertaining guests. 🙃😂
Just wondering, I’ve seen a lot of people say on chaturbate it dropped drastically after the tag wore off. Wasn’t 100% if it was the same on Streamates or not. I didn’t realize they did this for a month so I’m gonna up my nights on and try to do more nightly than I have been to get followers.
You can go to a website called verify him and I believe you get so many free numbers you can look up and then you have to pay for the service after that but you can use someone’s phone number to see a shit ton of information about the person like criminal records & stuff. Could be useful to see what his history is. Also you can use apps like cash app or others if he wants to transfer you money. No need to give our your bank info.
Just wondering because it doesn’t say on the site from what I’ve noticed what the exact amount you make from the sessions you do.
Oh good luck with that! I hope it turns out well for you. ☺️ I want to do kink stuff but I don’t know what yet. I don’t know why but I just love the idea of helping people see their fantasies played out. I’m just waiting on streammates to approve my proof of address and hopefully I’ll be trying them out next. Thank you for chatting with me it means a lot.
I’m sure there’s pros and cons to all of them, I’ve only dabbled with chaturbate so far and I signed up for a few others but haven’t messed with them yet. Just wondering what everyone’s favorites are. 🙃
I’ve been going though similar stuff the last 6+ months. Things you need to remember are YOU ARE STRONG, you’re not gonna feel strong you’re gonna feel absolutely defeated most days, your not gonna wanna get out of bed you’re not gonna wanna do anything. Do it anyways! But don’t neglect that either, if you have to get a sitter and spend all day in bed crying, screaming, and feeling the shit out of your emotions do it! Just don’t stay there too long. You need to take this time to do whatever you have to do to get through this. You are not a bad mom though this will be probably one of the hardest times to parent ever. I literally spent days laying in bed crying harder because my daughter was wiping my tears and I felt like an absolute shit parent that the only person who I cared about was comforting me instead of the other way around. It suck, but you’re not the first person and you won’t be the last to have to get through this...but you will, you’ll get through it. Let your friends and family love you, you’re gonna wanna push EVERYONE away literally everyone. Don’t! You have true friends, you have a support system and family, you need them now, let them be there for you while you need them. Nobody gives you closure, closure is something you give yourself. You don’t need answers or explanations, honestly they’ll just run through your head with a million different questions and scenarios that you don’t need to think about especially right now. Get a counselor ASAP you’re gonna have a lot you need to unload and honestly a counselor can help you prioritize, redirect, & think in a different perspective. If you wanna talk more my inbox is open, I get it, I’m sorry. My chest literally hurts knowing what you’re going through and have been these past few weeks and what’s to come. Remember to just breathe, you don’t have control over what other people choose to do but you do have control over you and how you react to it. Use that for good. You will get though this, you are strong, & If nobody else in the world believes in you I do. Day by day it gets easier, just remember to breathe. 💕
