An update about relaxing in a relationship

Q. I wrote to you in May 2023, panicked about my boyfriend (he was behind in school … I did not handle that well). Judging by the rushed thoughts, lack of nuance, and general chaos of my writing, I’m sure it was obvious that I spiraled when I felt stuck (hard to admit as someone who’s always go, go, go).

The comments split into two camps: Yours suggested I should leave him, while others thought I needed to back off and let him be young. When the letter published, I spiraled a bit. Some comments still make me laugh. Some favorites: “Anyone who thinks this much about nonsense is really way overdue for a good O-release.” (Fair point.) “You present yourself as a nagging taskmaster.” (True. I did.)